29 March 2008

The man I love who gave me the son that I love.

This blog wouldn't even be possible if it wasn't for the man that I love Anton Robert Hayes. We have been together now for five years and in May will have been married for three. God introduced us at church. I know it is a God thing, because we are a perfect fit. I was new to the church that he had gone to for a good portion of his life. I always thought he was cute, but knew he was off limits because he was married, or so I thought. The first Sunday we officially met was due to us both talking to a mutual friend Casey. Anton seemed to be flirting with me a bit which caught me off guard since he was a married man. How could a married man flirt with me at church when his wife was there? Well it turns out that the women he sat with every Sunday was his sister. Thank goodness for small groups I eventually figured that out. Course it took me about a year.
We started talking at small group at Jenae Lemons house, but we didn't really start talking until after I came back from Africa. It was two Sunday's after I came back when the college group was going to go to a church in a small town Howard to help out. I accidentally slept in, because I was still recovering from jet lag. I had more than enough time to just go to our church, but I felt compelled to go to Howard. I called Jenae for directions and she handed the phone to Tony. I sped the whole way due to this unknown compulsion. I arrived about 30 min late when I should have been about and Hour late. When I entered the building the only seat available was next to Tony. (later I found out that he stacked the song books on the pews to make sure that was the only seat available. clever man.) After church He offered to ride back with me instead of riding in the van with the rest of the group. We talked the whole way there and all through lunch. That night we went bowling with the group and afterwards talked in the parking lot until three in the morning. I thought for sure he would call me the next day and ask me on a date. Nope I had to wait till Friday, but it was worth the wait. He was so cute. He asked me if I wanted to go to a movie. I said sure. He said I mean just with me not the whole group. I said I know.
Three weeks later when we went on a Double Date with Jenae and Kevin(they are now married as well) Jenae asked me if I thought he was the one and even at that moment I knew that he was. I am amazed that Jenae had so much insight.
Two years later we were married. He has been absolutely wonderful to me and I grow to love him more each day. He has supported me through college, my parents divorce, my temporary loss of my brother, and pregnancy. He was my rock through delivery. He kept reminding me to breath and telling me how great I was doing. I know those sound like simple things, but if you ever go through labor you will understand how important they are. He even stuck around and held my hand while I got a needle stuck in my back which would typically make him pass out. He continued to support me while I was struggling to learn how to breast feed. I do not think I could have been able to breastfeed successfully with out him. He continues to amaze me each day by how much of a wonderful father he is.
Hunter and I are truly blessed to have him in our family. Course I am not sure if I ever want him to read this or his head might get too big. : )

1 comment:

Chelley N said...

Ahhh, what a special story! Thanks for sharing!